Hi, I'm Pamela
- I'M 50 YEARS OLD, 5.2", I'M MEXICAN, FRENCH and AMERICAN.
- I'M IN RECOVERY FROM ALCOHOLISM, CODEPENDENCY AND PTSD.
- I'M A MAMA. A CREATOR. A MENTOR - AND I FREAKIN' LOVE MY LIFE.
That's the big picture for me. As you can see, I am proud of who I am today - but it wasn't always like this. I'm passionate about sharing my story of addiction and how my life changed once I decided to get honest about my problem with alcohol. I underwent what I call a "personal revolution" and found out that...
Sobriety is my superpower.
Keep reading, for a bit of my crazy-beautiful story. I hope you find inspiration - but more importantly, I hope you take action. It's time to start your journey and discover life on the other side of whatever is keeping you small - and stuck.
Pictured here: my no-makeup, salty-skinned, Topo-Chico-loving self. Joyful and free AF.
My story
The first question is not: "Why the addiction?" but "Why the pain?" - Gabor Maté
My life is straight out of a movie script. I had a magical childhood in Mexico and studied in Paris, France. But when I returned to Mexico at age 20, I survived a kidnapping that brought my life to a screeching halt. That little plot twist changed everything.
My family fled to the United States to find some peace of mind. I pretended to be fine, but I wasn't. Daily nightmares about the kidnapping kept me awake, and I discovered drinking wine (lots of it!) helped me survive the night terrors.
My love affair with Cabernet began. I drank with growing consequences but was functional for many years. At age 35, I drove my son drunk. That was the worst day of my life. I took myself to an AA meeting the next day.
I was finally able to quit that year, 2009.
But sobriety felt more like punishment than relief. I was sober, yes - but I was miserable.
You see, since my focus was just on not drinking, I didn't heal the real pain beneath why I drank in the first place.
My alcohol addiction was contained - but I quickly picked up codependency, losing myself in every relationship I had.
After five years sober, I drank again.
Shame kept me stuck in that relapse for two whole years. I lost my marriage, my self-trust, and my sense of self.
In 2017, I found my way back to sobriety. I knew that "just not drinking" wouldn't cut it this time.
I took a deeper dive, using my intuition to seek something new. I ditched my shame and anonymity and went against the grain of everything I'd been taught. I got sober through what I now call The Badass Recovery process.
I decided to do things differently
I surrounded myself with new communities, ideas, and methodologies. I found a new sobriety that felt powerful, joyful, and radically different from before. My new sobriety felt liberating and expansive.
In 2018, I got certified as a Professional Recovery Coach, Life Coach, and SHE RECOVERS Coach (CPRC, CLC, SRPD), hoping to help people like me.
My Badass Recovery was born out of this new approach: Sobriety as a personal revolution—a new, bold, holistic process to quitting drinking and to loving who we become in sobriety.
Ready to start your revolution? Let's get on a call
MY WHY: MY SON.
I GOT SOBER (TWICE) TO BE THE MOM HE DESERVED.
Truth? You have to get sober for your own self.
But finding your WHY is the fuel for your mind and soul.
I got sober so I could be present for my son. So I could feel proud of myself as his mom. So I could teach him that we can't run away from our feelings; we have to face them. So I could trust myself to care for him and be present, no matter what.
What is your Why?
Find YOUR WHY with the "Unapologetically Sober" journal
My Badass Recovery
I decided to name my platform what has turned out to be a controversial name. A student in one of my retreats recently told me, "Woah. You are deep, eloquent, and insightful. Not the angry and edgy woman I expected to meet based on your brand." I've also had mentors and friends question the term. But I smile and carry on, doing my thing.
Because I think of my soul as badass. I think of YOUR soul as badass, too.
If you are like me, and addiction is part of your life - we are the same. We belong to the same wreckage - and we are survivors. We are not for the faint of heart. We are strong and badass AF. I know you feel me.
Being a badass is a soul vibe. It's about embracing who you are - with tenderness, responsibility, and grace. It's about owning your journey fully - and unapologetically. So let's keep being badasses together, shall we?
